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When
I was about ten-years old, I met the person who I would most admire
for years to come. She was the daughter of my parents’ friends, a
young woman I would meet once for a few hours and remember always.
She was self-assured, happy, and radiated love and acceptance. I
spent years wondering how I could achieve my dream of growing up to
be like her.
While
preparing LIFE,
SOUL BEING SOUL
books to share with you, I’ve tried to put together how I was able
to achieve the majority of this goal. I’ve known many people who
live life as a ‘victim’ and blame others, fate, or God for their
unpleasant circumstances. They don’t feel worthy of the good life
has to offer. And, like a magnet, their negative focus attracts more
of the same. Fortunately, I’ve also known many who believe that
only they
create their life-events. They seem to be living more connected with
their soul. They are content, healthy, and getting as much good from
life as they are willing and able to create and receive at the
moment. I am blessed to be a member of this second group, believing
that timing is perfect, my life is the result of my thoughts and
choices, and life gets better with each event. Even the ‘bumps’
are positive!
The
following are the ‘in-my-face’ growth and change motivators of my
life and how they have affected my choices. The Silva Method was my
starting point. The power of thought, of connecting with and using
the mind, became important. I learned to work with the levels of
consciousness and became aware of the truth of the phrase “self
fulfilling prophesy”. I began to consciously focus my mind and
eventually realized that trying to shed pounds while seeing myself as
‘fat’, ‘fat’, ‘fat’ was counter-productive. The process
had begun and the ‘victim’ excuse started to fade.
Then
a co-worker told me, very gently, that a person who was ‘driving me
crazy!’ might actually be a mirror of me. Because my reactions were
so intense concerning the other person’s behavior, it was suggested
that I accurately identify or ‘name’ their behavior and then
match it with that same aspect of me. “Oh no, not me!” “I’m
not like that!” “She needs to change!” It took painful soul
searching to locate that same quality within me, agree that I, like
everyone else, was doing my best at that moment, and decide that I
wanted to be a better version of me. I’d been told that when I
adjusted that specific quality in me, the other person’s mirroring
behavior would disappear. And, if, after concentrated
self-adjustments, that same behavior was still as irritating, it
meant that I’d been taking an easier route toward change and needed
to dig deeper. Using the gift of mirrors, I began the long
road of no longer needing to ‘control’. I was learning to trust
and let go! Once I experienced and verified the truth in this
process, I knew for certain that I am the only person I can change.
Over the years, the mirroring process alone has dramatically changed
my role as victim.
I’ve
lost track of the got-to-change mirroring life-teachers I’ve met or
observed since then. I have
learned that EVERYONE who seems irritating to me is a mirror of me to
the degree that his or her behavior is an irritant. Because I’ve
chosen to go within and re-define who I’d like to be, I no longer
may blame, complain, be angry with, or be frustrated by the
‘negative’ behaving mirror-people in my life. Someone will always
appear to help me! (About twice a year, I ask for ‘time out’.
This can be challenging work.) A pleasant spin on this fact-of-life
is that for all the beauty and positive qualities I see in life,
these, too, are within me to share! Yes, that would be a beautiful
me!
This
ends Part 1 of ‘My Path to Happiness’.
I’d
be happy to read questions or comments. Please email them to
info@soulbeingsoul.com
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